Posted by
norrivei on Tuesday, November 04, 2008 8:48:50 AM
Barack Obama told millions watching him accept the Democratic
nomination in Denver that his grandmother's influence on who he is and
the way he views the world was substantial.
"She's
the one who taught me about hard work," he said in August. "She's the
one who put off buying a new car or a new dress for herself so that I
could have a better life. She poured everything she had into
me."
On Monday, it was tributes that were pouring in
for Madelyn Payne Dunham, who died from cancer only a few days before
seeing her grandson perhaps become the nation's first black president.
She was 86.
"She's gone home," Obama said as tens of
thousands of rowdy supporters at the University of North
Carolina-Charlotte grew silent in an evening drizzle. "And she died
peacefully in her sleep with my sister at her side. And so there is
great joy as well as tears."
Those who knew Dunham
described her as a calm, assured and directed woman who was
instrumental in shaping Obama. He lived with her and his grandfather in
their modest two-bedroom apartment from 1971 until 1979 - the same
apartment where she died late Sunday.
The family is
planning a small, private ceremony.
Rep. Neil
Abercrombie, a Democrat, said in an interview that Dunham "died as she
lived. She was a woman of strength, great character, a solid anchor in
that family."
Dunham, who took university classes but
never earned a degree, nonetheless rose from a secretarial job at the
Bank of Hawaii to become one of the state's first female bank vice
presidents.
"Every morning, she woke up at 5 a.m. and
changed from the frowsy muumuus she wore around the apartment into a
tailored suit and high-heeled pumps," Obama wrote in his memoir "Dreams
from My Father."
He has often mentioned "Toot" - his
version of the Hawaiian word "tutu," or grandparent - as an example of
a strong woman succeeding through intelligence and determination. Many
of his speeches describe her working on a bomber assembly line during
World War II.
The Kansas-born Dunham and her husband,
Stanley, raised their grandson for several years in Honolulu while
their daughter and
her second husband lived overseas.
Obama learned of
Dunham's death while he was campaigning in Jacksonville,
Fla.
"So many of us were hoping and praying that his
grandmother would have the opportunity to witness her grandson become
our next president," said Hawaii state Rep. Marcus Oshiro, an Obama
supporter. "What a bittersweet victory it will be for
him."
Republican John McCain issued condolences. "Our
thoughts and prayers go out to them as they remember and celebrate the
life of someone who had such a profound impact in their lives," the
statement by John and Cindy McCain said.
Last month,
Obama took a break from campaigning and flew to Hawaii to be with
Dunham as her health declined. She was the last of his relatives who
had a hand in shepherding a would-be president.
When
Obama was young, he and his grandmother toured the United States by
Greyhound bus, stopping at the Grand Canyon, Yellowstone Park,
Disneyland and Chicago, where Obama would years later
settle.
It was an incident during his teenage years
that became one of Obama's most vivid memories of his grandmother. She
had been aggressively panhandled by a man and, for safety's sake, she
wanted her husband to take her to work. When Obama asked why, his
grandfather said she was bothered because the panhandler was
black.
The words hit the biracial Obama "like a fist
in my stomach," he wrote later. He was sure his grandparents loved him
deeply. "And yet," he added, "I knew that men who might easily have
been my brothers could still inspire their rawest
fears."
Obama referred to the incident again when he
addressed race in a speech in March during a controversy over his
former pastor, the Rev. Jeremiah Wright. "I can no more disown him than
I can my white grandmother," he said.
At the Honolulu
Senior Citizens Club on Monday, three of Dunham's fellow bridge players
lamented her passing. "She was a lovely lady," said Alice Young, 84,
who last saw Dunham about two years ago.
Nahid Mabid,
78, said Dunham would accept no assistance when they last played
together two years ago, even though she was confined to a wheelchair.
"She would say she could manage herself. She didn't want help from
anyone."
--
Associated Press
writers Audrey McAvoy and Mark Niesse contributed to this
report.